Saturday, November 10, 2012

How To Tame the Toxic Bullies in Your Life

How to tame the toxic bullies in your life. Effective tips, tools and techniques to stop verbal bullies in their tracks. You weren't created to be a doormat for every Tom, Dick and Harriet out there.
Content:
* how to stand 10' tall in every life situation and never be taken advantage of again by anyone.
* how to triple your confidence in every situation.
*  one simple phrase that will stop verbal abusers in their tracks.  (I give you the actual words to say)
*  how to say NO without fear, guilt. or apology.
*  how to overcome  your fear of not being liked if you assert yourself.
*  why people are toxic in the first place.
*  how to neutralize a verbal attack without saying ONE word.
*  how to handle someone who is sarcastic.
*  how to totally disarm your verbal abuser.
*  how to cope with a toxic boss firmly, respectfully and assertively and still keep your job.
*  how to ask for what you want without the "If that's OK with you" attitude.
* Simple and effective strategies to handle people who use toxic humor to make themselves look good by making you look bad.
* how to attract terrific people to your life.
* how to make decisions assertively without overpowering people.
* How to use humor and attitude to disarm the verbal abuser.
*  SEVEN Bully Types and how to handle each type

To get  your own personal copy of this valuable book Click Here

Thursday, November 08, 2012

7 Surefire Tips on Using Stories to Parent More Effectively. By Mike Moore


There are three things that all young people strongly dislike...
1. Being preached at
2. Being put down by others, especially parents and teachers.
3. Being yelled at
 
As parents we know how difficult it can be to refrain from doing all three. When we're angry things just come out and we regret them right after the deed is done. Thank God for the phrase "I'm sorry."  

We all seem to have a strong tendency to preach to our kids. And why shouldn't we? We were on the receiving end of preaching for a long time when we were young. Now it's our turn.  

The main reason why we should never preach to our children is this: It doesn't work. As much as we want them to listen and follow our words of wisdom and advice, they won't.  

Well friends I have found the secret to preaching without them considering it preaching. In fact they will actually enjoy it and it will do a lot to bond you to one another.   "What's the secret?" I hear you asking excitedly! It's quite simple. Storytelling.  

Ever since we were children we have had a hunger for stories. " Tell me a story Mommy." "Tell me a story Daddy." were words that came out of our mouths at least once a day.   Our love of stories doesn't stop when we leave childhood. I read recently that adults listen to over 60,000 stories a year. This doesn't seem unreasonable when you consider that every conversation, every newspaper and newscast involves the telling of and listening to stories. Every time we ask someone what they've been up to or how things are going we are requesting a story.    

Here are 7 surefire tips on using stories to parent more effectively.  
1. Don't begin a story with " Once Upon a time . . . " unless you're dealing with very young children.  

2. Become aware of stories with a message while you read , listen and view the media.  

3. When you find a story you can use jot the story line down in few words.  

4. Practice telling the story in your own words. Feel free to embellish the story to suit your situation.  

5. When you tell the story let it speak to the listener.  

6. You can ask a question related to the story when you're finished but don't try to condition their response. Just listen.  

7. Keep your stories short and crisp. Don't get bogged down in detail.


Start by identifying the values and ideals your family cherishes and affirms and then start looking for stories.
For much more on The Art of Storytelling check out Mike's 60 minute audio CD here
http://motivationalplus.com/cgi/a/t.cgi?storytelling