How to Identify a Toxic Boss by Mike Moore

 

Toxic bosses are an increasing phenomenon in contemporary workplaces and if you happen to be unfortunate enough to have one you  must be made aware that they are hazardous to your health and well being.

According to a recent British study, your health is directly related to the quality of your relationship with your boss.  Those with a poor relationship tend to have high blood pressure and high stress levels.

Characteristics of Toxic Bosses

Toxic Bosses ....

*  come across as charming but are cold, cunning and manipulative.

* constantly use the terms “ My people”, “My department” instead of   “our”

*  take credit rather than give credit for work well done by others.

* direct the focus of  all conversation to themselves. They are “ME  DEEP” in conversation.

*  put others down in an attempt to make themselves look good.

*  bend the truth to make themselves appear competent and in control.

*  value no one’s sense of humor but their own.

*  are competitive and will crush you if you get in their way.

*  regret very little about their actions and attitudes.

*  will hang you out to dry without a second thought.

*  don’t get headaches, they give headaches.

*  have an office support system of people who are afraid of them and      they use this system to enhance and promote their career and self interest.

*  are toxic because it works for them and they get away with it.

* look upon office conflict as a positive thing they can use to their advantage. ( divide and conquer)

*  are insensitive to the feelings, needs and well being of others.


Not all toxic bosses possess all of these characteristics but even if they possess some of them they can make your life miserable and be hazardous to your health.

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41 Tips on Bully-Proofing Your Child Special Report

We all know that bullying exists and is having a disastrous impact on the health and well-being of our young people. What we need to know is what we can do about it so that every child is cherished and respected and has an opportunity to achieve their unique potential in a kind and affirming community.

What I want to do with my New  Report How to Bully-Proof Your Child is provide busy parents with a easily accessible reference guide that provides them with effective tips, tools and techniques to use to develop a bully proof child.

While it might be unrealistic to think that we can stop bullying completely we can do a great deal to give our children the necessary tools and techniques to master the art of verbal self-defence whenever and wherever they are confronted by bullies.

It is important to realize that people bully others because it works for them and we let them get away with it. If we can make it so it doesn’t work for them and we won’t let them get away with it we have a good chance changing this destructive behaviour.

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How to Cope with Difficult People at Work

All workplace problems are people problems. When you solve people problems you solve workplace problems. With this firmly in mind I would like to offer you a FREE copy of my popular  Special Report  " How to Cope with Difficult People at Work"
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How To Tame the Toxic Bullies in Your Life

How to tame the toxic bullies in your life. Effective tips, tools and techniques to stop verbal bullies in their tracks. You weren't created to be a doormat for every Tom, Dick and Harriet out there.
Content:
* how to stand 10' tall in every life situation and never be taken advantage of again by anyone.
* how to triple your confidence in every situation.
*  one simple phrase that will stop verbal abusers in their tracks.  (I give you the actual words to say)
*  how to say NO without fear, guilt. or apology.
*  how to overcome  your fear of not being liked if you assert yourself.
*  why people are toxic in the first place.
*  how to neutralize a verbal attack without saying ONE word.
*  how to handle someone who is sarcastic.
*  how to totally disarm your verbal abuser.
*  how to cope with a toxic boss firmly, respectfully and assertively and still keep your job.
*  how to ask for what you want without the "If that's OK with you" attitude.
* Simple and effective strategies to handle people who use toxic humor to make themselves look good by making you look bad.
* how to attract terrific people to your life.
* how to make decisions assertively without overpowering people.
* How to use humor and attitude to disarm the verbal abuser.
*  SEVEN Bully Types and how to handle each type

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Toxic Bosses

Characteristics of Toxic Bosses

Toxic Bosses ....

*  come across as charming but are cold, cunning and manipulative.

*  constantly use the terms “ My people”, “My department” instead of “our”

*  take credit rather than give credit for work well done by others.

*  directs the focus of  all conversation to themselves. They are “ME DEEP” in conversation.

*  put others down in an attempt to make themselves look good.

*   bend the truth to make themselves appear competent and in control.

*   value no one’s sense of humor but their own.

*   are competitive and will crush you if you get in their way.

*   regret very little about their actions and attitudes.

*   will hang you out to dry without a second thought.

*   don’t get headaches, they give headaches.

*   have an office support system of people who are afraid of them and      they use this system to enhance and promote their career and self interest.

*   are toxic because it works for them and they get away with it.

*   look upon office conflict as a positive thing they can use to their advantage. ( divide and conquer)

*   are insensitive to the feelings, needs and well being of others.


Not all toxic bosses possess all of these characteristics but even if they posses some of them they can make your life miserable and be hazardous to your health.

A British study showed that working for a toxic supervisior/boss for ten years had the same impact on your health as smoking two packs of cigarettes for the same period of time.  Defend yourself against toxic people

Mike Moore is an international speaker of  Humor and Stress, Humor in the Workplace and Maximizing Staff Potential Using Humor and Recognition.  He is the author of Light Up With Laughter, Humor in the Workplace and Stretched to the Limit ( Managing Workplace Stress)  Visit My Website

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Taming the Toxic People in Your Life

Ten Terrific Ways to Tame the Toxic People in Your Life

Some people are harmful to our health according to Canadian
motivational speaker/ humorist Mike Moore. “ Toxic people make up about ten percent of the population, but cause over fifty percent of all damage done to relationships in your private and professional life.” Moore says. “ If we don’t learn to deal effectively with the difficult people in our lives we risk losing our health and our sense of well being.”

People are often toxic because they get away with it and it works for them.

Assert yourself and toxic, aggressive behaviour begins to disappear.


Moore, author of the 8 week online course, “ Taming the Toxic People in Your Life ” speaks to organizations throughout the United States and Canada offering simple and effective strategies on becoming assertive and coping with the people in your life that make your life hellish. “People don’t exist to be the personal doormats of verbal bullies,” Moore insists.

You can’t change toxic people, but you can learn how to cope

with them and neutralize their toxic impact on your health.

Here are 10 Effective ways to handle the toxic people in your life

* Always stand at eye level with the person you are confronting. Never have them standing over you looking down.

* Respect the toxic person and always expect respect in return. Settle for nothing less.

* Remain calm.

* Listen attentively.

* Don't argue or interrupt, just listen.

* Don't accuse or judge, just state how you feel.

* If the toxic person tries to verbally bully you, just say, " I don't allow people to treat me this way." Then slowly and calmly walk away.

* When someone is being toxic to you here is a powerful response and one that is easy to use because you don't have to say a word. In the midst of a toxic attack just PAUSE....LOOK AT THE PERSON, WITHOUT EMOTION......TURN AND WALK AWAY. It works!

* Anger is sometimes a valid response.

* If all else fails you might be left with only one option; to separate yourself from the toxic person in your life.

YOU DON'T EXIST TO BE SOMEONE'S PERSONAL GARBAGE DUMP.



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